Let’s talk about something real.
We love to celebrate sisterhood—those ride-or-die friendships that make life sweeter. The women who show up when your world is falling apart. The ones who hype you up before a big meeting or talk you through a breakup. That kind of connection is powerful. Sacred even.
But what happens when that same friendship starts to feel… off?
What happens when your wins are met with silence instead of support? When your boundaries are seen as betrayal? When the sisterhood starts hurting more than it heals?
The truth is, not all red flags show up in romantic relationships. Some of the most painful ones happen in friendships. And most of us were never taught how to spot them—let alone heal from them.
Here’s what I’ve learned—and what I want every woman to know.
When It Feels Like a Competition
Friendship should be a soft place to land. But if every time you share good news, you’re met with a “me too” or a subtle dig, it’s worth paying attention.
You shouldn’t have to shrink to be safe. You shouldn’t have to hide your blessings just to keep the peace.
A true friend claps when you win. Period.
When Guilt Creeps In
“You’ve changed.”
“I guess you’re too busy now.”
“You never call anymore.”
It might sound innocent, but if it keeps happening, it starts to feel like pressure. Like guilt. Like control dressed up as concern.
Healthy friendships give space. They grow with you. They don’t make you feel like you have to earn your place over and over again.
When It’s All Drama, No Depth
If every conversation is gossip or venting, and there’s never room for your dreams, your growth, or your truth—that’s not sisterhood. That’s noise.
Real connection can handle silence. Real sisterhood knows how to hold space.
If you can’t show up as your full self, ask yourself what you’re really getting from the relationship—and what you might be losing by staying in it.
When Your Healing Feels Like a Threat
This one hurts. Because growth is supposed to be beautiful. But sometimes, when you start changing, not everyone can come with you.
Maybe you’ve started setting boundaries. Maybe you’re not saying yes to everything. Maybe your priorities are different now.
And suddenly, you’re “acting different.” But here’s the truth: you are different. And that’s not a bad thing.
Not everyone will understand your healing. But that doesn’t mean you stop healing.
So What Do You Do?
You don’t always have to cut people off. But you do have to get honest—with yourself first.
What do you need in friendship?
What kind of energy do you want to surround yourself with?
What are you no longer willing to accept?
Sometimes a conversation helps. Sometimes time creates the distance. And sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is let go with grace.
You Deserve Aligned Sisterhood
Listen—I know how hard it is to let go of people you’ve laughed with, cried with, shared life with. But I also know this: staying connected to people who make you feel small, guilty, or stuck doesn’t serve you.
There are women out there who will celebrate you.
Who will hold your boundaries.
Who will grow with you.
Who will remind you of your power on the days you forget.
And that’s exactly why I created the TechMae app—a space for real, aligned connection. Inside, you’ll find a community of women just like you—healing, growing, and redefining what sisterhood looks like.
When you’re ready to build friendships that feel like home again, we’re there.
Let’s stop normalizing pain in our friendships. Let’s choose better. Let’s become the kind of women we want to walk with.
Because sisterhood should feel like love. Not survival.